And I think that's a good thing. Today, the New Hampshire office is the only one left. About NHPR. I think that instead of thinking of it as lowering standards or settling or whatnot, we need to understand that love isn't always convenient. Online dating has opened up a lot more possibilities for queer people living in rural America, according to Skyler Wang, a PhD student in sociology at U.
He studies how online arrangements influence offline relationships on platforms, including Airbnb, Couchsurfing, and dating apps.
For those who might not have the resources to move, dating apps can fill a gap in rural America. The idea of a "dating pool" can be difficult to identify and might mean something different for everyone: It's defined by sexuality, distance you're willing to travel, preferences regarding height, age, or weight, education, or interest in starting a family. You want to leave yourself with those options when they arrive. That's true everywhere," she said. But I had a funny reaction: I felt very alienated suddenly. She's in her early thirties and looking for someone around the same age.
The dating apps gave O'Hare somewhat unnerving insight into her potential dating pool. Fred just collects clocks," Lewis recalled. Jess O'Hare loved living in New Hampshire. I mean, I'm supposed to be a modern woman, surging forward in her career," she said.
Am I going to meet someone compatible with me? Is New Hampshire a bad place for people in their twenties and thirties to date? It was a constant conversation that we were having. You'd just get it all in," she said.
Facebook Twitter LinkedIn. And you cycle through people pretty quickly in New Hampshire. I think this is just seeing what's out there because you never know what might come your way that you thought you didn't like, but you're sort of intrigued by it. We would kind of mourn the fact that all of these single people would then leave. Next Up:. Available On Air Stations. But it's really important!
And that person may not be white, that person not be whatever that you're used to. Lewis thinks that people in their twenties and thirties mostly rely on apps, but there was a time when they did have younger clients. You don't want to cut yourself out.
She found herself swiping and talking with people in Kittery, Maine—an hour east—and had friends who drove an hour west to Vermont for first dates. They were entering this stage of life that I had no experience in, and I felt kind of left behind. And Fred likes clocks, so the office is always loaded with clocks.
And I said, aren't you funny! It's still early days for O'Hare's transition to the big city. It can change what's possible, and who is possible to meet. While there is a whole genre of clickbait articles that rank the best U. The point is nobody really knows the best place to date, and the lived experience might look and feel quite different than what the data suggests.
But searching the census for singleness or eligibility is tricky.
Her job has kept her busy during her first summer in New York and she hasn't had much time for the dating apps. Plus, she regularly had to swipe through people she knew personally. I won't say I haven't seriously thought about it, just It's not to say that we wouldn't though.
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In springO'Hare relocated to Brooklyn. She moved to Concord for a job as an environmental organizer just after her college graduation and enjoyed the affordability, tight-knit community, and natural landscapes. Unmarried men and women between ages 20 and 34, as estimated by the American Community Survey for This data is subject to a margin of error.
And she'd wonder: "Am I doing the wrong thing by staying here? It was noticeable! Take O'Hare, for example. If you're somebody who's seeking out a relationship and that's something you want, that's a really big part of life. Sullivan started the business inback when Together operated all over the country. Play Live Radio. I don't think this is settling. It's something that's crossed my mind though. You just have to go on a of dates to find someone compatible.
In Merrimack County, where she lived, there were almost 10, unmarried men between the ages of 20 and 34, according to the American Community Survey for Unmarried people in the same bracket add up to just under 15 percent of the overall population, but compared to New York City and its surrounding boroughs, unmarried people make up 22 percent of the total population.
Sometimes I think it's going to be a home run and it's not, other times I think, maybe Clients are typically 45 years old, and older.
Finding love in a hopeless place
All Streams. Are things really so bleak? Just because someone is unmarried doesn't mean they're available or even looking for a partner. I think it's all about putting yourself out there, no matter where you are. It made me feel even lonelier," said O'Hare.
It made it very clear that I was not in that same place. The placard hanging near Lewis' desk re: "Together is a nice place to be. Support NHPR with your monthly gift and become a sustaining member today! We also want to hear from you. And she said, is this is abecause my biological clock is ticking? At this stage of the game, we're not doing that. For single people in New Hampshire, O'Hare's story isn't exactly uplifting. When in doubt, swipe right. While she had social and professional reasons to move, she's open about the fact that dating was a major factor in her decision. There are definitely a lot of options out there for everybody," said Lewis.
Lewis and Sullivan do not match gay, lesbian, or queer singles, although Lewis says she's considered it. Things are much more transparent than they would have been before," said O'Hare. If you move to New Hampshire and think, I'm going to go out there and meet the person of my dreams in New Hampshire and you leave no stone unturned, I think you will. The artwork in the office has a floral motif, sometimes embellished with an encouraging message. It's not always easy. Scroll down to see all the stories in the series so far.
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We're kind of what you would call an old-fashioned matchmaker I interview everybody that we match up," said Lewis. What cost of living challenges - and opportunities - do you face in your corner of New Hampshire? I had a wonderful network of friends, I loved my job, but one of the things that was missing was that it was really challenging to find single people my age," O'Hare said.
Show Search Search Query. She's a professional matchmaker, so it's her job to believe in the possibility of romance. I would love to do that. Please submit your questions on the form below, and one of our reporters may get in touch! You see a lot more diversity in relationships now because of online dating, because you're driving an hour away to meet someone that is not within the usual scope of people that you hang out with.